Hatred Is Not Ended by Hatred, but by Love

answered by The Dhammapada

기원전 3세기경 결집(초기 불교 게송)

🎬 TODAY'S FILM — IT ASKS THIS

Marvin's Room (1996)

dir. Jerry Zaks · USA

Two sisters long estranged are brought face to face by an ailing father and one sister's illness. The piled-up grievances remain, yet before the reality of caregiving, repaying hatred heals nothing. What ends an old wound — a settling of accounts, or a hand offered first?

THE QUESTION THE FILM ASKS

Do I hold onto old grievances with a sibling only by way of paying each other back?

THE CLASSIC'S ANSWER · ORIGINAL

非以怨止怨唯以慈止怨

怨憎會苦非以怨止怨唯以慈止怨

📜 THE CLASSIC'S ANSWER

Hatred is never ended by hatred; it is ended only by love. This is an ancient and unchanging truth.

💡 TL;DR

This verse of the Dhammapada touches exactly the old sediment between siblings.

📝The Classic Answers

This verse of the Dhammapada touches exactly the old sediment between siblings. Childhood wounds, a parent's favoritism, grievance over a divided share — none of it ever ends by paying each other back. Repay hatred with hatred and the loop runs on endlessly. There is one way to cut it: someone stops first, with love. When sisters long turned away sit together again before an ailing parent's sickbed, that reconciliation does not come from sorting out right and wrong. I choose to set down the wish to win first. It is not losing, but breaking the loop.

— ONGO · Curator

🌱Apply It Today

Take one old grievance with a sibling or close one and reach out to resolve it first, without litigating right and wrong.

📖 Classic Source: The Dhammapada. Ancient text in the public domain; rendered and interpreted independently by ONGO.
The film is honored as an equal questioner; its plot is rendered only as a universal dilemma. The classic source is an ancient text (Public Domain), and the reflection is 100% original ONGO content.