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Shall I Say I Lost It, or That I Gave It Back?
Shall I see what has gone as lost, or as something held a while and given back?
Never say of anything "I have lost it," but "I have given it back."
Epictetus's "say you gave it back" compressed the Stoic answer to how to bear loss. The Stoics saw all we have as entrusted a while by fate, teaching a freedom of mind that does not resist when it is taken back. This runs deep with Job's "naked I came, naked I go" and with Buddhism's non-possession and non-attachment. Modernity, by contrast, asked whether this attitude is not a resignation that accepts even unjust loss with submission — should not some losses rightly be resisted and grieved? Is loss a calm giving-back, or something to be rightly mourned? The question still divides serene acceptance from honest grief.
In an age of constant anxiety over what we might lose, Epictetus's question — to change losing into giving back — makes us ask anew about our whole relation to what we hold.
Epictetus, born a slave and freed, urges us to change the whole language of loss: never say you lost a thing, but that you gave it back.
📝I, Too, Stand Before It
Epictetus, born a slave and freed, urges us to change the whole language of loss: never say you lost a thing, but that you gave it back. If a child has died, it was given back; if property was taken, that too was given back. It sounds heartless at first, yet a deep comfort lies within it. I feel this question redraws leaving and being left. If everything that passed by my side was only entrusted a while, then a departure is not robbery but return. Can I change the language of loss into the language of giving back? I call the ones I have let go by that name too.
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