Resentment Is Undone Only by Love

answered by The Dhammapada

기원전 3세기경 결집(초기 불교 게송)

🎬 TODAY'S FILM — IT ASKS THIS

Autumn Sonata (1978)

dir. Ingmar Bergman · Sweden

A mother and daughter, meeting after long apart, pour out a lifetime of grievance and wounds in a single night. The daughter has just resentment and the mother her own circumstances, yet a conversation bent on winning pushes the two further apart. Where is the road to reconciliation while still holding a justified wound?

THE QUESTION THE FILM ASKS

Do I use an old wound from a parent or child as just cause, closing the door to reconciliation myself?

THE CLASSIC'S ANSWER · ORIGINAL

怨終不能息

彼罵我打我若人懷此念怨終不能息

📜 THE CLASSIC'S ANSWER

While one holds the thought "they hurt me," resentment never ceases. For the one who lets that thought go, resentment fades.

💡 TL;DR

The Dhammapada said that as long as one clings to the thought "they hurt me," resentment does not cease.

📝The Classic Answers

The Dhammapada said that as long as one clings to the thought "they hurt me," resentment does not cease. Wounds between parent and child last uniquely long. The love not received in childhood, the words never heard, harden into a lifelong grievance. That grievance has just cause — which makes it harder to release. Yet proving the wound was justified does not heal it. Even when an aging parent and child sit together as if for a last chance, if the wish to win remains, reconciliation does not come. I choose to open the hand that grips my rightness — not for the other's sake, but to free myself from resentment.

— ONGO · Curator

🌱Apply It Today

Take one wound from family and, setting aside "who was right," ask instead "what could I release to be at peace."

📖 Classic Source: The Dhammapada. Ancient text in the public domain; rendered and interpreted independently by ONGO.
The film is honored as an equal questioner; its plot is rendered only as a universal dilemma. The classic source is an ancient text (Public Domain), and the reflection is 100% original ONGO content.